Major areas of avoidance of fear
Now for most of us we have what I would call a fear tolerance level. Do you notice your fear tolerance level in the course
of a day? Most of us have a fear tolerance level. To be frank most of your fear tolerance levels are so strong that you’re in
complete denial that you have any fear at all on certain issues. That’s how strong your fear tolerance level is. In other
words your fear tolerance level is so low that you will not allow yourself to be conscious of any fear that you actually
have on certain issues.
And in particular there are two issues that are primarily affected by these choices and decisions that you are making
collectively. One issue is this – the issue of your relationship with God; your belief systems about God that you do not
wish to confront. The second one is your relationship with the other half of yourself, your soulmate. Remember that’s the
other half of yourself. And the third issue is yourself, which is your own soul. These are the three biggest avoidances that
you have inside of yourself about truth.
So when somebody comes along and talks to you about some kind of external truth, you go, “No worries, I can accept
that, that sounds really good, it’s a great concept, a great idea. I’m so fascinated about that area of study.” But when
somebody comes along and says, “Do you know that you are quite a nasty woman actually?” And if you’re a woman, not
a man, you’ll probably feel that as an attack on you, even though it might be true. You might be quite a nasty woman,
actually: but you feel it as an attack and so what you do is you don’t want to become conscious of that because you’re
afraid that you are in the end. And so what you do is you rub out of your life any awareness of your own self.
5.1. Beliefs surrounding relationships
Then when it comes to being single versus being in a relationship, many of us do not wish to examine why we are single.
We believe the main reason why we are single is because there are no good men out there or no good women out there.
We believe that it’s other people that are the problem; that’s what we believe. And if we are honest with ourselves the
majority of us who are single do believe that the problem is there are no good people to find – we do believe these things.
And why do we believe these things? Because we’ve got a lot of fear about this relationship that we don’t want to address;
we don’t want to expose; we don’t want the fear to be heightened; and so what we do is we deny all truth about it: and the
being we do that the most with is God. That’s the reality.
5.2. Beliefs surrounding having a relationship with God and how we treat God’s Creations
Many of you believe that a relationship with God is possible without having love for your fellow man or for the other half
of yourself or for yourself. So many of us believe that a relationship with God is possible even though we don’t like
ourselves, even though we have a problem with the opposite gender or the same gender, depending on what kind of an
attraction it is. So shall we call it we have a problem with our soulmate attraction. And even though we treat others, who
are neither of the first two things – ourselves or our soulmate – badly, we believe that a relationship with God is possible,
while we treat other people badly. And a relationship with God is not ever going to be possible while we treat other
people badly, ever.
So of course there’s degrees of how we treat people. So if we treat other people badly half the time, then half the time we
might be able to have a relationship with God because the other half the time we’re treating other people well and so
therefore in that interaction we can actually have some kind of relationship with God. If we want to become at-one with
God, which is being connected with God all of the time, then we must have love for every single one of those people;
ourselves, the other half of ourselves, and any other person. But if we really want to become at-one with God we’re not only going to have to have love for that we’re also going to
have to have love for all of God’s Living Creations, and also love and respect for all of the inanimate creations and how
we deal with all of them.
So in other words at some point in time we’re going to have to love our physical body. So if we’re there still drinking
alcohol, which is killing brain cells in our physical body, you can’t really say in that place that you love yourself. If you’re
still getting angry with your partner all the time you can’t really say you love your partner. If you’re still projecting at
other people that they’re not as good as you or they’re worse than you are or you’re condescending towards them, even just
slightly feeling frustrated with them, then you’re not loving them. They’re allowed to exercise their own will – so this is a
part of not loving people.
If we’re using animals and other creatures for our own benefit and we’re willing to destroy their life in order to have that
occur, then we’re not even loving them; and if we’re willing to manipulate animals in order to get things from them, we’re
not loving them either.
So there are a lot of areas where we’re not loving under those circumstances. And we can’t expect to have a relationship
with God while we’re doing all those things, because God created all those things. You, your soulmate, others, their
soulmates, all other living creatures – everything was created by God. You can’t expect to have a loving relationship with
God while we’re being unloving with all those things. And we’re never going to be loving with all those things while our
fear is the most dominant thing in our life. Because whenever compromise is put in our face, where we have to
compromise what we’re doing or love, if we honour fear we will always do what fear dictates: we won’t love; we’ll always
do what the fear wants.