“The Way we live


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Your Will

This Using will in harmony with God’s Laws And then lastly, one of the biggest problems we have is that we might believe all of these things are true intellectually, we might accept them all intellectually, but when it comes to exercising our will in harmony with these things, that’s where we fall down. In other words we don’t have a strong desire to truly be loving. We only have a desire to be loving as long as good things happen as a result. But something bad might happen as a result of us being loving, and by the way it is possible that something bad can happen from the result of us being loving because when other people are not in a loving RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD – PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER JESUS (AJ MILLER)space sometimes they view what you do in a loving space as unloving. And so they have a response to that. So often times what we’re trying to do is we’re trying to exercise our will in harmony with self-protection. We’re not exercising our will in harmony with love or truth or humility or faith. Instead we’re exercising our will in a way that we try to protect ourselves from what is going on, what is happening in our lives: protect ourselves from any – what we see as future harm. We often are exercising our will in that direction only and we will under those circumstances compromise: compromise truth, compromise humility, compromise love; and many of us on a day-to-day basis still compromise love; we still do that. So if we were truly wanting to put it all together, what we would do is we would exercise our will in harmony with God’s Laws. That’s what we would do. That’s how we would exercise our will. We would not exercise our will out of harmony with God’s Laws, whether we know intellectually they’re God’s Laws or emotionally. As soon as we know intellectually even, without us being aware emotionally, we would want to exercise our will in harmony with what we’ve learnt. We would not keep giving ourselves excuses. For instance, one excuse that I hear from many of you is, “I’m not there yet.” How many times have you used that one in your personal life? You go, “I know that I should do this but I’m not there yet. I’m not capable of doing that yet.” And in particular we see that happening when it comes to telling the truth with other people. “I know I should tell my husband that I cheated on him ten years ago, but I’m not there yet.” In other words I’m not in the state yet where I feel like I can be motivated to do that and take the consequences. That’s really what we’re saying. We’re saying I’m not there yet because we’re saying we know that God’s Laws will all happen a certain way to correct our attitude and we don’t really want to engage those laws in the direct manner, and so we try to make excuses for ourselves. That’s what we do.Now they’re the primary parts of putting our relationship with God together: they’re the primary parts. Now it’s a very brief summary, of course we could discuss, and I have done for hours and hours on end, love and what love is and what love isn’t and all of those different things. We’ve got whole seminars where we did whole days of what it means to love another person; whole days of what it means to receive Love from God; whole days of what God’s Truth is. And in fact Mary and I will be presenting more information about God’s Truth over the coming months. About what is God’s Truth, what are the qualities of God’s Truth, what are the attributes of God’s Truth.Mary and I have already done humility. Like I’ve said, we’ve done five sessions on humility, called “Interview with Jesus – Humility” and talked a lot about what that is, what it looks like, what it feels like, how it is. Remember we’ve just done a series of talks about faith and prayer called “Relationship with God – Faith

via Faith that God is good and loves.


Major areas of avoidance of fear
Now for most of us we have what I would call a fear tolerance level. Do you notice your fear tolerance level in the course
of a day? Most of us have a fear tolerance level. To be frank most of your fear tolerance levels are so strong that you’re in
complete denial that you have any fear at all on certain issues. That’s how strong your fear tolerance level is. In other
words your fear tolerance level is so low that you will not allow yourself to be conscious of any fear that you actually
have on certain issues.
And in particular there are two issues that are primarily affected by these choices and decisions that you are making
collectively. One issue is this – the issue of your relationship with God; your belief systems about God that you do not
wish to confront. The second one is your relationship with the other half of yourself, your soulmate. Remember that’s the
other half of yourself. And the third issue is yourself, which is your own soul. These are the three biggest avoidances that
you have inside of yourself about truth.

So when somebody comes along and talks to you about some kind of external truth, you go, “No worries, I can accept
that, that sounds really good, it’s a great concept, a great idea. I’m so fascinated about that area of study.” But when
somebody comes along and says, “Do you know that you are quite a nasty woman actually?” And if you’re a woman, not
a man, you’ll probably feel that as an attack on you, even though it might be true. You might be quite a nasty woman,
actually: but you feel it as an attack and so what you do is you don’t want to become conscious of that because you’re
afraid that you are in the end. And so what you do is you rub out of your life any awareness of your own self.
5.1. Beliefs surrounding relationships
Then when it comes to being single versus being in a relationship, many of us do not wish to examine why we are single.
We believe the main reason why we are single is because there are no good men out there or no good women out there.
We believe that it’s other people that are the problem; that’s what we believe. And if we are honest with ourselves the
majority of us who are single do believe that the problem is there are no good people to find – we do believe these things.
And why do we believe these things? Because we’ve got a lot of fear about this relationship that we don’t want to address;
we don’t want to expose; we don’t want the fear to be heightened; and so what we do is we deny all truth about it: and the
being we do that the most with is God. That’s the reality.
5.2. Beliefs surrounding having a relationship with God and how we treat God’s Creations
Many of you believe that a relationship with God is possible without having love for your fellow man or for the other half
of yourself or for yourself. So many of us believe that a relationship with God is possible even though we don’t like
ourselves, even though we have a problem with the opposite gender or the same gender, depending on what kind of an
attraction it is. So shall we call it we have a problem with our soulmate attraction. And even though we treat others, who
are neither of the first two things – ourselves or our soulmate – badly, we believe that a relationship with God is possible,
while we treat other people badly. And a relationship with God is not ever going to be possible while we treat other
people badly, ever.
So of course there’s degrees of how we treat people. So if we treat other people badly half the time, then half the time we
might be able to have a relationship with God because the other half the time we’re treating other people well and so
therefore in that interaction we can actually have some kind of relationship with God. If we want to become at-one with
God, which is being connected with God all of the time, then we must have love for every single one of those people;
ourselves, the other half of ourselves, and any other person. But if we really want to become at-one with God we’re not only going to have to have love for that we’re also going to
have to have love for all of God’s Living Creations, and also love and respect for all of the inanimate creations and how
we deal with all of them.

So in other words at some point in time we’re going to have to love our physical body. So if we’re there still drinking
alcohol, which is killing brain cells in our physical body, you can’t really say in that place that you love yourself. If you’re
still getting angry with your partner all the time you can’t really say you love your partner. If you’re still projecting at
other people that they’re not as good as you or they’re worse than you are or you’re condescending towards them, even just
slightly feeling frustrated with them, then you’re not loving them. They’re allowed to exercise their own will – so this is a
part of not loving people.
If we’re using animals and other creatures for our own benefit and we’re willing to destroy their life in order to have that
occur, then we’re not even loving them; and if we’re willing to manipulate animals in order to get things from them, we’re
not loving them either.
So there are a lot of areas where we’re not loving under those circumstances. And we can’t expect to have a relationship
with God while we’re doing all those things, because God created all those things. You, your soulmate, others, their
soulmates, all other living creatures – everything was created by God. You can’t expect to have a loving relationship with
God while we’re being unloving with all those things. And we’re never going to be loving with all those things while our
fear is the most dominant thing in our life. Because whenever compromise is put in our face, where we have to
compromise what we’re doing or love, if we honour fear we will always do what fear dictates: we won’t love; we’ll always
do what the fear wants.

Truth exposes fear

Truth exposes fear
I don’t know but do you notice that fear is a bit like ice. Do you notice that? It’s like it feels so immovable and so
constraining that it feels like you can’t do anything else but act in harmony with the fear. That’s what it feels like. So let’s
draw it as a block of ice. Now I often liken truth to water, so let’s say that block of ice is floating in some water. Where
would the water level be on the ice under normal circumstances, if we’re talking from a scientific perspective? Is it 2/3’s?
1/8, 7/8’s? How much does H2O expand when it gets cold? Well let’s draw it at about one eighth. [01:02:38.04]
So if fear is a block of ice and the water is truth, can you see that truth has only exposed a certain amount of your fear at
this point in time only? You’ve only become conscious of this fear that is above the water line of the block of ice. Already
for many of you that’s too much. But it’s your fear that prevents most of the engagement of all of the principles of putting
it altogether with your relationship with God.

Using an analogy of fear being ice floating in water of truth, we are only aware of the fear in us that is above the water line and
has been exposed by truth
It’s mostly the refusal to do these things – love, truth, humility, faith and will, which is only dictated to you by your fear –
that causes you to stop doing these things, which means that you can no longer put it all together and it means that your
relationship with God is affected: and this part of the ice that is above the water line is the only part of your fear that
you’ve allowed yourself to expose. So above the water line is the fear that you could say you were aware of; that’s what
you’re aware of. Below the water line is all of the fear that’s inside of you that you’re completely unaware of. Now who is
frightened about that concept? So we’re frightened about a concept that explains where we are about fear: and often we
are afraid of what we’re actually seeing.
So for pretty much all of us this is how our life is until we engage more truth. When we engage more truth, it’s like
draining the cup of water. So imagine this ice and water is in a cup, so let’s put it inside of a cup. Now if you have more
truth, it’s like tipping out that water level so the water level reduces. So if the water level reduces what happens? The
more truth that happens, the more fear is exposed. Is that not true? Isn’t that what happens when we start processing
through issues of truth in our day-to-day life? We get more afraid, generally. That’s what happens. [01:05:07.15]

Tipping out the water, by receiving more truth, exposes more fear

Percentages of the audience who have progressed

Percentages of the audience who have progressed
So the reason why I asked this question about relationships is this. If I had to break up the whole audience in terms of
condition of what’s really going on inside, I’d need to break up the women from the men, because it’s different for the
women than the men generally in the audience. But if we look at the general condition of the majority of us, fifty percent
of us still have no idea what it means to practice Divine Truth, and I’m talking about fifty percent who have listened for
three to five years still really have no idea. Around forty percent have an idea and have made some progress, but their
progress has now either stagnated, or become very frustrating, or has been dictated to by their fear. In other words they’ve
only progressed on the issues that you’re not so afraid of. And for the issues that you’re terrified of, there’s been little or no
progress in those areas.
And then around ten percent – so there’d probably be close to one hundred and fifty people here today, so we’re talking
about fifteen of you – actually do understand what it means to connect emotionally to God and connect emotionally to
your emotions and so forth, and actually have made continual progress, and have also started to get beyond your fear. In
other words your fear no longer dictates your action, which is something that’s been a major change in your life. But there
are only around fifteen people in the audience who do that actually, where their fear no longer dictates their actions, or the
majority of their actions. There’s still fear for all of you that dictate your actions in some cases, but there’s around fifteen
of us in the audience that actually no longer let themselves be ruled by their fear. So that means in one hundred and fifty
people there are basically one hundred and thirty five people who still let their fear dictate everything. [00:59:09.28]
That’s why in 2009 and 2010 I gave a whole series of talks about fear. I even did a “Fear Revisited”. You remember that?
Going back to try and get people to deal with their fears. The reason why is because fear is a major limiting factor on your
life. As soon as the fear is triggered, what is happening for the majority of you is you throw away love, you throw away
truth, you throw away humility, you throw away faith and you use your will to look after your fear, which is your God.
Many of you have made some progress – I feel there are at least fifty percent of you that have made some progress that I
see. When I’m measuring progress I’m not measuring it from the point of view that you lived here and then you moved
there because that to me is a sideways shift – you’re still on the Earth, it’s a sideways shift; and I don’t mean that you now
have a different job, well that’s just a sideways shift. I mean that you’ve actually become more loving and it’s observable
to other people. Other people feel you are more loving than you were when you began. Now for many of you, other

people feel you are no different than you were five years ago. For some of you other people feel that you are actually
worse than you were five years ago, in terms of love; and that can happen because when all of our fears get triggered,
what do we have a tendency to do if fear is our god? We start acting in all of our fears and we become more unloving
automatically as soon as we act upon our fears.
So what I’m going to do now is break it up into men and women, and what’s going on in terms of what’s going on for the
genders generally in the audience currently. So this doesn’t always apply to everybody who’s listening to this talk, but
rather just the audience currently. Before I do that, what I’d like to do is just talk to you a little about fear and truth.

Placing fear as our god

Placing fear as our god
See this is what happens when fear rules. You’re saying, “I’m choosing to let my fear rule”, but that’s just an excuse
because the reality is if your desire, your will was being exercised in harmony with love, you would ignore your fear,
even if you had it. You would ignore it, you wouldn’t listen to it. You wouldn’t do what it dictates. You would choose
instead to do something that you know to be right.

So for example, if you know that when you control, or if you want to control a potential partner, you’re not going to get
very many potential applicants. If you know that for certain, then surely the most logical thing to do would be to use your
will in a different direction. In other words, stop controlling, stop wanting to control. And then of course all your fears
would come up and if you were truly humble, you would feel them. You wouldn’t hold on to them and you wouldn’t say,
“I’m using my fear to determine my course of action.” Because why would anybody want to use their fear to determine
their course of action? It makes no logical sense to use your fear when you know your fear is not actually God’s Truth, it’s
just what you believe to be true.
And so what I’m suggesting is that a lot of times we use these excuses like, “I’m terrified”. That’s an excuse to not have a
relationship. It’s not a valid excuse. It’s an excuse we want to use and the reason why we want to use it is because we don’t
want to love, and we don’t have a strong enough will and we don’t have a strong enough faith that things are going to be
different. We believe that every time we engage a new relationship that eventually they’re going to either want to control
us or I want to control them because they’ll do things that might stress me out, may make me feel certain things that I RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD – PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER JESUS (AJ MILLER) 
don’t want to feel. Well that’s a lack of humility because if you just let yourself feel everything, then you wouldn’t be
worried about that. [00:54:50.08]
So we start seeing these problems that we face are surrounding fear, which many times they are, but what happens is we
do this with our fear, and I’ve told many of you this many times – we make our fear God and everything else comes
behind our fear.
So we like the idea of love and we like the idea of truth and we like the idea of becoming humble and we like the idea of
having a strong faith in God and in the positive parts of the universe, and we like the idea of using our will with desire
and passion and having an expressive life. We like all of those ideas and concepts. But what we have done is we’ve placed
our fear as our God and as soon as we place our fear as our God, all those ideas go out the window the moment our fear is
The moment our fear starts to come up all we do from that point on is try to suppress it. We’re not interested in using our
will in harmony with love anymore, we’re not interested in the truth anymore, we’re not interested in being loving with
our brothers and sisters, our friends, the world, animals – all these other things. We’re not interested in loving all of those
things; we’re not interested in trying to maintain a concept that actually God is good. We’re not interested in any of those
things anymore because our fear is God, and fear is not a good God, we know that. But we feel that we must conform to it
every single time. And in making fear our God we are ignoring all of these things in that momen